Marriage Truths

GREATEST SECRET ON HAVING A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE

Marriage 2.0 seminar participants share their greatest secret about having a successful marriage. We hope these secrets will help and encourage you on your marriage journey.

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Be open and honest with your spouse.
The wedding vows we took were the truth that should live by every day.
Be more co-operative, compassionate and committed to my marriage.
Learn to laugh together
Communication
Intimacy: As/Tim the tool man (A great lover is not the man who bedded 1000 women, it is the man who loved and satisfied the same women for the last 40 years)
Love deeply, forgiveness, loyalty.
Listen more, talk less! Share more, care more! Always something to be grateful for!
That we realize it is a journey we walk together…rather than a race won by the “victor”!
Kind & love of one another as God loves us to forgive one another.
Love Love Love
Not to quit and be open to changes!
To listen to my spouse and give them daily affirmations.
Communication, love and respect for each other are the 3 most important aspects of a healthy marriage.
The more we seek to meet our mates needs the more blessed we are.
Listen to God’s direction in our marriage.
Loving my husband as great as possible.
Be Patient
Love the Lord with all your heart building the relationship.
Keeping Christ as the center.
Make the most of each day. Sharing secret thought of each other.
Respect for each other.
Love, honor, and respect.
Allowing my wife to vent without trying to fix it.
Be a friend, resolve issues, don’t harbor grudges.
Believing and trusting in the love of my spouse even when he is not being his best self and knowing that he will do the same for me.
Be faithful, loving, caring, considerate, respectful and communicate!
How important it is to having and keeping respect and zest for life and marriage to my partner in life.
Kindness and affection shows your mate how deep your feelings are for her.
Not always being right.
Not quitting when things get rough. Working through the issues and doing it through Christ to ensure it grows stronger and deeper.
Being in union with the spirit of life.
Appreciating my wife and affirming the good things I see in her builds her up and sets her free.
You must work to have a successful marriage, it does not come easy.
Honesty
Demand less, expect and pray more. God has a plan.
Put your spouse above you
Commitment – every moment of every day we can make the choice to love our spouse or ourselves or others.
Listen to what the other person ‘says’ in both words and actions because communication isn’t always verbal.
Being honest and open with my wife about my love for her.
We are time tested, we’ve met the battles, suffered losses, allowed positive change to impact us. Looking forward to the future together.
Accept the things I cannot change. Put my spouse in God’s hands. Moved spouse from God’s position in my life.
Recognizing the blessing you have in a wife who may not be perfect but is such a positive part of your life and that she flourishes on love.
Realizing that this is who God blessed me with!
Be kind always – love, love, love
Have a deep loving respect for each other. Care for each others hearts.
Marry someone that knows Christ and is willing, patient, forgiving enough to bring him out in you.
Communication to resolve problems/differences/expectations is good so things don’t build up. You need to address your conflicts; don’t keep your feelings hidden from your spouse.
Be firmly grounded in Christ.
Have a plan to make it better and work on it every day.
Take steps to change what is not working. You can choose to reaffirm, re-connect and readjust to God and your spouse. Forgive and ask for forgiveness
Look at yourself in a mirror when you are grumbling about your spouse. Try to say what you are “thinking” out loud, or say what you are planning to say to your spouse to the mirror.
Letting go of expectations and accepting the other as they are. – Dying to me –
Stick with it, were in it for the long run (marriage vow for better or worse).
Hold your tongue and pray a lot!
Celebrate each other in good times and bad times, be proud of who your spouse is.
Grace has been extended to me through Jesus. I have the responsibility to extend grace to myself and others, period.
If you don’t meet your spouse’s needs yours will not be met.
Look at your spouse’s heart and listen to him/her with this always in mind. This will usually determine a much more gracious and forgiving discussion no matter what the topic is or how heated it potentially could become.
Remember you are both on the same team, not against each other. Focus on God together, Focus on the problem and do not put the problem between yourselves.
Men need respect and women need love. Assume the positive and share your stories with each other.
Marriage is teamwork…you need to both collaborate together.
We need to work together as a team.
So much about marriage is just showing up to take the next step.
Listen carefully, admit failures quickly and apologize honestly.
To realize we are on the same page working together to love; respect each other.
To have a strong marriage you need to be friends, have fun together, and respect one another.
Doing your 100% on the team. Not waiting for them to change.
Love with whole heart, choose kindness, honesty in dealing with problems. Above all else forgiveness.
Learn not to focus on the past – forgive.
Communication
Respect and total commitment to my partner in marriage and be less controlling.
Never underestimate the value of a savory meal in a warm kitchen after a long day.
Put the other person first.
Speak to your spouse as if that was the last day you’ll speak to her.
No matter how busy the day was, make time to unwind together at the end of each day.
Spouse trust – family – friends. Share everything with your spouse – forgive the past!
Give and take. Don’t over react and have a forgiving spirit.
Most important thing about a successful marriage is it isn’t all about me. I’m only half of the equation and my “happiness” is only part of it.
It’s better to live life in light of eternity then to be right in the light, momentary times of the temporal. Male, 40 years married
The most truly significant is God’s influence in my marriage. Knowing God during my married life made me stay and with stand the various storms of a married life. We have peace and unity if God is the center of our marriage. Female, 40 years married
Spending time together is more precious than gold.
It’s more about what’s right than who is right. Always seek to understand before you seek to be understood. Male, 22 years married
It is most important and most difficult to truly love your spouse – to be patient, kind, gentle, and unselfish – BUT it’s the only way to be content and fulfilled in marriage. Female, 29 years married
Grass is greener where you water, nurture and pull the weeds out. Male, 21 years married
Accept and appreciate my spouse. Put myself in his shoes so I can understand his concerns/burdens.
Treat your spouse as Lord of his castle. Respect him (even though he does not deserve it) and serve him lovingly. Appreciate his hard work to bring the bacon home. Female, 21 years married
Marriage: Praise your spouse, respect your spouse’s differences from you cause God creates us differently. Accept your spouse’s family members. Female, 25 years married
Put God first…before your spouse, kids, everything!
You don’t always have to be right.
Commitment: Love is more than a feeling.
Pride is destructive. Humility, forgiveness and grace far outweigh being “right”!
Always share the truth about your feelings. Be quick to take responsibility for your own actions. The best and most sincere/genuine relationship can come from this.
Feelings are neither right or wrong; they just are; acknowledging their existence is the first step in understanding.
Communication is key.
Learn your spouses love language.
We need to be selfless and humble.
Selfishness is the cause of all our problems. Me! Me! Me!
If I think less highly of myself and more highly of my spouse, my thoughts and feelings are more balance and closer to the truth.
Marriage takes intentional effort to build and maintain a healthy, thriving relationship.
Pay attention to the “small things” the small things are the oil that keeps the machinery – the marriage – running smoothly.
Use your strength’s God has given each of you and “wow” as a couple you will make a difference.
When filled by the Spirit my actions and words to my spouse are surprisingly encouraging, loving, and up-building.
When God is the passion or priority of each individual, the best choices/of a partner, decisions, etc., are made).
We get when we put into things. What we feed our minds with will be what we become.
Become fluent in the “love language” of your spouse.It is truly like learning to speak another language.
Focus on what makes my spouse 97% awesome rather than the 3% flaws.
Marriage is a 100% – 100% partnership not 50-50.
The most truly significant is God’s influence in my marriage. Knowing God during my married life made me stay and with stand the various storms of a married life. We have peace and unity if God is the center of our marriage. Female, 40 years married
Faith and trust in God. Male, 31 years married
Spending time together is more precious than gold. Female, 15 years married
It’s more about what’s right than who is right.Always seek to understand before you seek to be understood. Male, 22 years married
It is most important and most difficult to truly love your spouse – to be patient, kind, gentle, and unselfish – BUT it’s the only way to be content and fulfilled in marriage. Female, 29 years married
Grass is greener where you water, nurture and pull the weeds out. Male, 21 years married
The most truly significant is God’s influence in my marriage. Knowing God during my married life made me stay and with stand the various storms of a married life. We have peace and unity if God is the center of our marriage. Female, 40 years married
Listen to his needs rather than judgmental.
Enjoy being together!
Communication, communication, communication.
Putting the other person before my own needs.
Keep dating…invest in your relationship.
Grow your relationship through the cycles of life.Hug and kiss every day, date every week, jointly celebrate holidays and plan memorable annual vacations.
Talk less and listen more. Female, married 47 years
I have learned that I have to dwell on the positives of my life with my wife. Love her for who she is and not what or who I can make her to be. Male, married 46 years.
Be humble and quick to forgive. Male, married 12 years
Knowing that once we get through each struggle we are strong and more intimate. Female, married 32 years
Honesty and communication is upmost important in building a successful marriage. A decision to work through everything together. Male, married 32 years
Lead your family with a soft heart to the things of God. Male, married 35 years
Being a good team – being there for each other – being a great friend.
It’s not the big things that make the biggest impact.My husband responds well when I say or do anything that shows he’s important to me.
God must be the center of the marriage.
Sharing a sense of humor even in the most challenging moments and being able to laugh together.
Humility – nobody has all of their stuff together so to expect perfection from your spouse only leads to pain and frustration.
Daily affirm and celebrate your spouse. Choose forgiveness rather than holding on to hurts.
Protect the marriage from any and all distractions.
Work on myself.
It’s about willing the very best for the other – first.
Talk to one another. Do not let issues fester – be supportive and patient.
The point/secret of a successful marriage is, through thick and thin commit to each other.Address issues and walk toward being a positive team and an example to others by your commitment.

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