Marriage: The Wisdom of Solomon
The Wisdom of Solomon – a 2018 Version of Proverbs 5
Avoid Pornography and Any Depiction of Immoral Sexuality
My sons – and all you pre-teens, young people and even boomers, pay attention to my wisdom about your sexuality; listen carefully to my wise counsel about keeping a pure life that honours God.
If you do you will show real discernment and judgement, your life will show integrity, and your lips will express the truth of what you’ve learned.
For Porn makes the lips of the ‘online fantasy woman’ look as sweet as honey, and her mouth look smoother than oil as if her false affection will satisfy you.
But in the end Porn is as bitter as poison, for sexual addiction is as dangerous as a double-edged sword. It’ll kill you.
The feet of the ‘fantasy woman’ go down to death; her steps lead straight to the grave. Chasing her by treating women as objects will be your total ruin.
For Porn cares nothing about the path to life – what is right or moral or true. No, it leads people staggering down the crooked trail of addiction and they don’t even realize it. Some start so young and get hooked.
So now, my sons – all you pre-teens, young men and boomers, listen to me. Never stray from what I am about to say:
Stay away from PORN! Don’t go near one click of those websites! Even stop gawking at the sexy waitress with the low-cut top and tight skirt. Show respect.
For if Porn and your sexual desires ensnare you, you will lose your honour, your job, your family and your self-respect. Ask around, you’ll see. You will lose all you have achieved in life to merciless people who merely use your addition to make a fortune.
Strangers will consume your wealth – one credit card payment after another – and someone else will enjoy the fruit of your labour. Seriously, you will blow up your marriage.
In the end you will groan in anguish when your addiction destroys your mind, when its disease consumes your body, and when your disobedience demolishes your faith.
You will say, “How I hated discipline thinking I knew better, thinking it wasn’t affecting me! If only I had not ignored all the warnings about Porn versus purity! If only I had stopped at that first innocent peek!
Oh, why didn’t I listen to my teachers? Why did I buy into what the godless culture was selling? Why didn’t I pay attention to my pastor and youth leaders? Why did I listen to misguided friends who said it was innocent and cool?
I have come to the brink of utter ruin, I am stuck and I can’t seem to get free. Now I must face public disgrace along with my private hell.”
Here’s the truth: Enjoy drinking water from your own well—share your love and sexuality only with your wife.
Why spill the water of your springs in the streets or in late night binge viewing – having sex with just anyone? It’s not too late to stop.
Save it all. You should reserve your sexual capacity for yourselves – just between you and your wife God has chosen. Never share it with strangers – whether a fantasy online or an actual person. Keep your sexual life special – sacred as God intended.
Let your wife be a fountain of blessing for you. Stay away from Porn so you can freely and fully rejoice in the wife of your youth without comparison.
Then, she will be your only fascination – like a loving deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts alone satisfy you always. May you always be captivated by her love!
Why be captivated, my son, by an immoral ‘online fantasy woman’ or selfishly pursue a sexual encounter of any young, unrestrained woman you can get your hands on? Stop it.
For the Lord sees clearly what a man does – both online and in person, examining every path he takes – every move he makes.
A selfish, distracted man is held captive by his own sins and sexual addiction; they are ropes that catch and hold him fast. They can’t count how many times they have tried to quit. It’s hard to break free from Porn without the help of God and others.
This man will die for lack of sexual self-control; he will be lost because of his great foolishness.
(Read this warning for yourself in Proverbs 5 NLT to see that the contextualization of this passage has taken only minor and reasonable liberties).
Dr. Dave Currie is a Sexual Recovery Therapist certified with the American Association of Sexual Addiction Therapists. He and his team of counsellors at the Doing Family Right Care Centre help men to sexual freedom and support their spouses who struggle to face it. Recovery Groups for men and women and support groups for partners are available. Go to https://www.doingfamilyright.com/dfr-care-centre/ for details. We’d love to help. Solomon was right.
By Dr. Dave Currie
© Dr. Dave Currie – Dec 2016
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